If you want to read the first post in this series, written before my dad passed away, see it here.
If you’d like a refresher of what my motherhood goal entails, see my 2017 goals post here.
Here’s the basic recap: I want to rejoice in motherhood, even when it is hard and painful and boring and dreary. Because let’s not totally romanticize this: mothering is hard, consuming work. I believe it takes the grace of God, good mentors/examples, and a whole lot of intentional moment-by-moment living. One of my goals for this year is to learn more mothering skills for this particular season. This is especially pertinent now that we’re about to have a repeat of the past season with Secundus’ arrival in June. Only now I’ll have a toddler along with the newborn, and I anticipate this means a same-but-new season!
*Edit: I felt the need to add this after thinking about it all morning: This series can be for you, too, if you want to be a mama but aren’t one yet. Maybe it’s infertility, waiting on adoption paperwork, or waiting on marriage. I want to encourage your heart, too. When I was single, but really wanting children and leaning towards adoption, this passage of Scripture greatly encouraged me. If you are in the wait and want to share your story, please comment or email me. I have several friends in this wait, but I don’t know if they are ready to share their stories with the world yet. Know this, mama-in-waiting: you can rejoice in motherhood too, as you encourage and support those mamas around you and wait for the fulfillment of His promises.
I mentioned in my 2017 goals post that we had decided on some resources for parenting/mothering. We are planning to use the Montessori method as it relates to teaching life skills, some of the way we discipline, etc. – but that is such a huge topic, there will another post on it Friday. For my sweet Christian friends who may have heard weird things about Montessori – yes, the way it is used sometimes can be odd, and a lot of non-Christian folks use this method. However, it is not entirely incompatible for raising your child with a Christian worldview. I hope to tell you more about that specifically on Thursday!
I’ve chosen to limit the number of people, online and in-person, that I go to for advice this year. I love to read, and I love blogs. I can easily overwhelm myself with the quantity of information, as well as sometimes contradictory but well-meant advice. When it comes to motherhood, these are the resources I chose, outside of family and other mama friends:
- Miss S- // an older lady I co-teach Sunday School with. She is so wise, fun, and similar in likes/personality. She is a trusted source of advice on a weekly basis!
- Lara Casey // I found her blog when I was struggling with some good old postpartum depression, probably, thanks to a very colickly baby and some very unrealistic expectations for myself. Through her cheerful, vulnerable posts and her desire to turn first to God for help, I found much encouragement! Her little boy, Josh, is a couple of months older than Prima, so she was literally living things out a little bit before me, which was helpful!
- Sally Clarkson // I don’t know where I first heard of her. But if you want to not merely survive motherhood, but relish it, rejoice in it, and see it as a beautiful thing, I recommend her books. I am currently reading through The Mission of Motherhood, and Own Your Life. If you are the mother of an “all the letters” child, you will want to look into her newest book, Different, about raising her son with OCD, ADHD, etc.
- Andrea Dekker // I’ve followed her blog for years. I used to follow her for her organizing tips. Now I really enjoy her no-nonsense, laid-back approach to parenting. We are roughly the same age (although she has more children!) Her posts are like a breath of fresh air to me, reminding me that often simpler is better, and you probably, actually, aren’t going to mess up your kids that badly by doing or allowing _______.
That’s it! If you have a favorite mothering/parenting resource, I would love to hear about it – and it could help other readers, too! Please share in the comments